Maintaining Connections With Birth Families in Adoption

Ongoing contact between birth parents, adoptive parents, and the adoptee (also referred to as openness in adoption) allows family members to communicate and stay connected. Supporting these relationships is in the best interests of the child, as ongoing communication with birth family members may minimize feelings of grief and loss, reduce the trauma of separation, and help children and youth develop a stronger sense of identity. Agencies should emphasize the importance and value of maintaining these connections despite possible resistance from families. Contact may include infrequent communication; mediated contact through a third party, email, or letters; or ongoing, in-person interaction. This section includes resources and information on maintaining connections in adoption.

Helping Children and Youth Maintain Relationships With Birth Families

Series Title	Bulletins for Professionals
Author(s)	Child Welfare Information Gateway
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Year Published	2019

Provides professionals with information to help children, youth, and adoptive families develop and maintain appropriate and evolving connections with their birth families. Children and youth who are adopted need to maintain relationships with their birth families, previous caregivers, or other important connections, and it is vital that their parents support them in doing so. Nurturing these relationships is in the best interests of the child, as ongoing contact with birth family members may minimize or resolve his or her feelings of grief and loss due to separation.

Helping Your Adopted Children Maintain Important Relationships With Family

Series Title	Factsheets for Families
Author(s)	Child Welfare Information Gateway
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Year Published	2019

Helps adoptive parents support children, youth, and birth families in strengthening their relationships. Children and youth who have been adopted and maintain relationships with their birth families, caregivers, and other important people in their lives benefit in significant ways. Adoptive parents can play an instrumental role in helping their children maintain contact with their birth families or other important caregivers.

Open Adoption
Creating a Family
Offers information about openness in adoption, including interviews with adoption professionals, blogs, and suggested books.

Openness in Adoption: From Secrecy and Stigma to Knowledge and Connections
Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute (2012)
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Presents a report depicting how extensively adoption in the U.S. has changed over the last several decades - from a time when it was shrouded in so much secrecy that birth and adoptive families knew nothing about each other, to a new reality today in which the vast majority of infant adoptions are "open," meaning the two families have some level of ongoing relationship.

Postadoption Contact Agreements Between Birth and Adoptive Families

Series Title	State Statutes
Author(s)	Child Welfare Information Gateway
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Year Published	2019

Presents State statutes on postadoption contact agreements, which are arrangements that allow contact between a child's adoptive family and members of the child's birth family. Topics covered include the contents of agreements; parties to agreements; the court's role; and enforcing, modifying, and terminating agreements.

Understanding Open Adoption
Carney (2013)
Adoptive Families Magazine
Provides an overview of the challenges of open adoption and findings in current research.

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