Older Children

According to recent data from the Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System, the average age of a child waiting to be adopted from the U.S. foster care system is 8 years old. Statistics on foster care adoption indicate that adoptions of older children remain far less common than adoptions of younger children. This section includes information about adopting older children and youth waiting for families in the U.S. foster care system and throughout the world.

7 Key Ingredients for Successfully Adopting a Tween or Teen
Davenport (2015)
Creating a Family
Lists seven recommendations to keep in mind when adopting a teen, either from domestic or intercountry adoption, such as learning as much as you can about issues facing children who are older at adoption. This resource also includes a recorded radio show with an adoption professional, "Adopting Tweens and Teens—Special Issues to Consider."

The Adopted Life Episodes
The Adopted Life (2020)
Features a web series comprising conversations between youth who have been adopted and the series creator, Angela Tucker. Discussions include various topics centered on adoption, including intercountry and transracial and transcultural adoption.

Adopting Older Children (PDF - 373 KB)
Singer (2016)
Center for Adoption Support and Education
Explores older-child adoption and how to prepare for adopting an older youth, how to help children adjust, parental adjustment, maintaining connections with birth family members, and more.

Older Youth Adoption
North American Council on Adoptable Children (2020)
Presents resources to help adoption professionals find and support prospective adoptive families for older youth.

Parenting Your Adopted Teenager

Series Title	Factsheets for Families
Author(s)	Child Welfare Information Gateway
Availability	View Download (PDF - 333KB) Order (Free)
Year Published	2015

Offers information to help adoptive parents understand their adopted teenager’s experiences and needs so parents can respond with practical strategies that foster healthy development. These strategies include approaches that acknowledge trauma and loss, support effective communication, promote a teen’s independence, and address behavioral and mental health concerns.

Talking With Older Youth About Adoption

Author(s)	Child Welfare Information Gateway; AdoptUSKids
Availability	View Download (PDF - 1,070KB)
Year Published	2016

Provides child welfare professionals with a framework for how to talk with older youth about permanency, including key considerations and suggestions for starting a conversation as well as ways to make these discussions more effective and meaningful.

Teens Need Families
AdoptUSKids
Answers common questions related to adopting older teens, including youth consent to adoption, planning for college tuition, and accessing medical benefits.

Ten Things to Think of When Adopting an Older Child
RainbowKids (2017)
Shares one adoptive parent’s experience with intercountry adoption and reviews questions parents should ask themselves to assess their skills and readiness when considering adopting an older child.

Tips From Preteens and Teens
North American Council on Adoptable Children (2017)
Shares tips from preteens and teens for families considering adopting older youth and reviews what it's like to wait, how to make a new place feel like home, how to treat children, respecting existing connections, authenticity, and more.

Youth Voices: Why Families Matter [Webinar]
AdoptUSKids (2019)
Describes the importance of permanency for older youth, how to engage youth when planning for adoption, and resources that can support efforts to achieve permanency for older youth, including the National Adoption Month website.

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