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Promoting Healthy Families in Your Community : 2008 Resource Packet

Author(s):  Child Welfare Information Gateway, Children's Bureau, FRIENDS National Resource Center For Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention

Year Published:  2008

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Chapter 3: Tip Sheets for Parents
Dealing With Temper Tantrums

What's Happening

Two- and three-year-olds have many skills, but controlling their tempers is not one of them. Tantrums are common at this age because toddlers are becoming independent and developing their own wants, needs, and ideas. However, they are not yet able to express their wants and feelings with words. Take comfort in the fact that most children outgrow tantrums by age 4.

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What You Might Be Seeing

Normal toddlers:

• Love to say "no!" "mine!" and "do it myself!"
• Test rules over and over to see how parents will react
• Are not yet ready to share
• Need lots of fun activities, play times, and opportunities to explore the world
• Respond well to a routine for sleeping and eating (a regular schedule)
• Like to imitate grownups and to "help" mom and dad

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What You Can Do

It is often easier to prevent tantrums than to deal with them once they get going. Try these tips:

• Direct your child's attention to something else. ("Wow, look at that fire engine!")
• Give your child a choice in small matters. ("Do you want to eat peas or carrots?")
• Stick to a daily routine that balances fun activities with enough rest and healthy food.
• Anticipate when your child will be disappointed. ("We are going to buy groceries for dinner. We won't be buying cookies, but you can help me pick out some fruit for later.")
• Praise your child when he or she shows self-control and expresses feelings with words.

If you cannot prevent the tantrum, here are some tips for dealing with it:

• Say what you expect from your child and have confidence that your child will behave.
• Remain calm. You are a role model for your child.
• Holding your child during a tantrum may help a younger child feel more secure and calm down more quickly.
• Take your child to a quiet place where he or she can calm down safely. Speak softly or play soft music.
• Some children throw tantrums to seek attention. Try ignoring the tantrum, but pay attention to your child after he or she calms down.
• Resist overreacting to tantrums, and try to keep your sense of humor.

When your child is having a floor-thumping tantrum, the most important thing you can do is remain calm and wait it out. Do not let your child's behavior cause you to lose control, too.

This tip sheet was created with input from experts in national organizations that work to protect children and promote healthy families. For more parenting tip sheets, go to http://www.childwelfare.gov/preventing/promoting/parenting or call 800.394.3366.

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You are in section: Table of Contents Letter from the Associate Commissioner About This Packet Protective Factors for Promoting… Partnering With Parents and… Promoting the Five Protective… Nurturing and Attachment Knowledge of Parenting and… Parental Resilience Social Connections Concrete Supports for Parents Using Tip Sheets for Parents Bonding With Your Baby Usted y su bebé: El lazo que los une Dealing With Temper Tantrums Los berrinches Setting Rules With Teens Los adolescentes y las reglas Finding Help When You Need It Obtenga ayuda cuando la necesite Raising Your Grandchildren Cómo criar al hijo de un pariente Tools for Engaging Your Community Talking Points Community Strategies Pitching Story Ideas to the Media Understanding Child Abuse and… Reporting Child Maltreatment National Organizations That Protect…

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Updated on February 13, 2008